My Approach
Therapy as a relational process
I understand therapy as a relational process. We do not grow in isolation, and we do not suffer in isolation. Our patterns of thinking, feeling, and relating were shaped in relationship, and they shift most meaningfully in relationship.
Early attachment experiences influence how we see ourselves, how we respond to conflict, how we regulate emotion, and how we seek closeness. Much of our protective behaviours once made sense. Therapy is not about blaming those protections. It is about understanding them, and then deciding whether they still serve the life we want to live.
I do not see distress as purely pathological. We are shaped by families, culture, systems, and the historical moment we inhabit. Feeling unsettled, angry, or grief-stricken is not always evidence that something is wrong with you. It may be a coherent response to the circumstances you are living in. The key lies in understanding the context. Seeing the whole.
Growth involves both compassion and responsibility. Understanding our patterns is one step. Choosing how we wish to live in response to them is another. My role is not to direct your life, but to help you see it clearly enough to choose it consciously. Your agency is your power.
In our work together, I draw from relational, existential, and somatic traditions. We may explore emotional experience as it unfolds in the room. We may slow down enough to notice what your body is communicating. We may examine the beliefs and narratives that quietly organise your behaviour. The pace is collaborative. The direction, always yours.
